Dear Sara…

“Conscious parenting is activism and activism is hard. Activists are cycle breakers. Breaking cycles requires deep change and that takes time. So activists need a lot of patience. It can be deeply painful. So we need the ability to bear great pain. It is often exhausting. So we need to be good at loving ourselves and taking care of ourselves. Conscious parenting is activism. You are changing the world.” – Vivek Patel

Dear Sara…

"It is so important to get really clear on what your needs are, so you can take care of them before you make requests of your child." ~Lori Petro

Dear Sara…

"When we teach our children to "be nice" instead of self-aware – which means, self-directed, self-governed, self-boundaried – we teach them that it is more important to be in a relationship, than it is to be true to oneself." ~Shefali Tsabary

Dear Sara…

"An important element of respectful discipline is that it requires us to find that sense of certainty in ourselves as loving leaders for our children." ~Janet Lansbury

Dear Sara…

A thoughtful parent sent me an email the other day posing a question about her twin boys (5). She made the brilliant suggestion to start a "Dear Sara" column where I can address these kind of concerns in a larger forum and offer my advice. I love this idea and asked her if I could [...]

I’m Here, I Want to Listen…

Written by: Sara Zacuto “People have said, ‘Don’t cry’ to other people for years and years, and all it has ever meant is, ‘I’m too uncomfortable when you show your feelings. Don’t cry.’ I’d rather have them say, ‘Go ahead and cry. I’m here to be with you.” ― Mr. Rogers

What Does It Mean To Be A Friend?

I'll be perfectly clear and say that I have no intention of answering this question...I don't think there is a definitive answer. It is a question we ponder with children often in our school. One way that children ask each other to play is by using the language "wanna be my friend?" But what do [...]

Exploring the Rights of Children

Last week I hosted a parent workshop where we collectively took a closer look at the rights of children. We came together, we talked, we questioned and we reflected on how to uphold the rights of the child in a parental context and in the context of a classroom. At one point I posed the question [...]

“It’s Not About the Cup”

Last weekend we discussed this topic in our parent workshop entitled "Examining Our Expectations." We shared our common struggles and deepened our sense of community by coming together with a common goal-to reflect on our practices as parents. We talked about the feelings that might inform the behavior that we see in our children, and [...]

The Gift of Acknowledgement

How many times have you been out shopping, or at a park and witnessed a young child melting down, crying, pleading, maybe even screaming? Perhaps they wanted a new toy, maybe they were tired or hungry, or they experienced a conflict with another child. I’ve seen this scenario play out more times than I can [...]