“Conscious parenting is activism and activism is hard. Activists are cycle breakers. Breaking cycles requires deep change and that takes time. So activists need a lot of patience. It can be deeply painful. So we need the ability to bear great pain. It is often exhausting. So we need to be good at loving ourselves and taking care of ourselves. Conscious parenting is activism. You are changing the world.” – Vivek Patel
"“Trust children. Nothing could be more simple, or more difficult. Difficult because to trust children we must first learn to trust ourselves, and most of us were taught as children that we couldn't be trusted." ~John Holt
"As children’s awareness of themselves grows, they become quite aware of the body parts they and others have, and those body parts are highly interesting. But grownups aren’t talking about them, and we don’t like to. So they need to create a “party atmosphere” to bring up the subject, and to keep it on the table. If we were more enthusiastic, maybe they wouldn’t have to provide so much of the enthusiasm. But it’s part of integrating yourself as a human being to pay attention to who you are, what your equipment is, and how it all works." ~Patty Wipfler
"An important element of respectful discipline is that it requires us to find that sense of certainty in ourselves as loving leaders for our children." ~Janet Lansbury
A thoughtful parent sent me an email the other day posing a question about her twin boys (5). She made the brilliant suggestion to start a "Dear Sara" column where I can address these kind of concerns in a larger forum and offer my advice. I love this idea and asked her if I could [...]
“Instead of thinking about caring for children as a kind of work, aimed at producing smart or happy or successful adults, we should think of it as a kind of love. Love doesn’t have goals or benchmarks or blueprints, but it does have a purpose. Love’s purpose is not to shape our beloved’s destiny but to help them shape their own.” Alison Gopnik, Ph.D.
Written by: Sara Zacuto "Parenting is the development of an extremely vital relationship, the model for every future relationship your child will engage in." ~Janet Lansbury